21 Things to Avoid!.........

Here is a list of 21 things to avoid so you can focus on things that matter and make your life better.

1. Over committing your time, energy, or brain power.
2. Saying yes when you want to say no.
3. Allowing your “have to do” list overshadow your “want to do” list.
4. Letting external influences make your decisions for you.
5. Expecting others to make you feel happy, satisfied, or loved.
6. Allowing work to dominate your thoughts or conversation on days off.
7. Thinking that there’s not enough time to eat right, or get some exercise.
8. Spending your free time doing things you don’t want to do.
9. Comparing yourself to others.
10. Stressing over things you can’t control or change.
11. Obsessing over the personal decisions that others make.
12. Getting involved in things that are none of your business.
13. Focusing your conversations or thoughts on problems.
14. Projecting negative expectations.
15. Saying “I told you so” when your advice has been ignored.
16. Letting fads or trends dictate your preferences.
17. Blaming others for your current reality.
18. Buying things you don’t need just because they’re cool.
19. Inventing distractions to avoid responsibilities.
20. Working hard without knowing what you want to achieve or become.
21. Trying to hide from or make excuses for your real feelings.

SMILE PLEASE :-)............

Notice yourself right now. While you are reading this mail, your eyes absolutely concentrated to the monitor. Even at this moment there is a certain minor level of unnoticeable stress.
Now, just SMILE a bit and continue reading.
SMILE PLEASE
You yourself feel the change. Whatever you do, wear a smile on your face. Whatever emotion you are acting at the moment, you will probably feel better and relieved on smiling. Moreover, smile is contagious, hence, if you smile, chances are that those around you will too. Keep Smiling.

Compliment Yourself..........

Yes. It is very important to compliment yourself at once each day. Many a time we dress up well or spray a nice perfume and are expecting someone to compliment. Well, dont’t wait for others to compliment you. Do it yourself. This helps you in loving yourself more and more each day and the more you love yourself, you become happy and your confidence is also boosted. There are many good qualities and positivity in you but maybe you have given so much importance you the odds in your life that the positivity has taken a back seat. Now, realize yourself – the pure, good and positive YOU and compliment yourself for it. Keep yourself happy and you shall soon find the peace and calmness inside you that you are actually searching outside. Keep Smiling

Demonstrate Listening.....

Peace comes through shared understanding, and shared understanding comes through listening. If you hear things incorrectly, or not at all, you’re likely to proceed on false assumptions which are likely to give way later and cause conflict. The best way to ensure good listening is to demonstrate it.
Practical Tip: Are you listening? Prove it. After you have heard someone say something, demonstrate to them that you heard them and understood what they said. Saying “I understand” is not a demonstration. 1. As you listen, show that you are paying attention with silent expressions and perhaps an encouraging word or two. 2. After hearing, reflect back what you heard. Ideally, repeat the main points, use a mix of the actual words that they used and some of your own words, and try to name their feelings. Like, “My, that must have made you feel ________.” Let them judge if you got it right. And if you missed, no problem; try different words and talk it through until you “get it,” and they agree that you get it.
The ultimate demonstration: act in ways that prove that you listened and understood.